THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

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"The 5 Love Languages" was a book written by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992, which introduced us with the different forms of love languages, that can help us in expressing love to others and to ourselves. These are: 

- words of affirmation

- quality time

- gifts

- acts of service

- physical touch

Dr. Chapman wrote this book after discovering the misunderstandings that happen with people in relationships. These love languages can be applied to any form of relationship, for instance, with friends, family, or a beloved.

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A CLOSER LOOK AT THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

1. Words of affirmation

The first form of love language is expressing love and affection verbally or through words. This involves complimenting the other person, praising them, motivating them, being kind and empathizing with them. For example, sending love notes, uplifting quotes or a nice text message. Words of affirmation is likely to be the most common form of love language.

In terms of self, you can say things to yourself like, "I am strong", "I am kind", etc, or you can also make a list of things your like about yourself to make yourself feel loved.

2. Quality time

Just as the name suggests, this love language is focused on spending quality time with loved ones. It involves long and insightful conversations, paying attention to what the other person has to say, not getting distracted by mobile phones while talking to them. For example, going on picnics together, planning together on going to movies, games, concerts, long walks etc. 

Quality time with yourself may include, taking out time for yourself, taking breaks between work, relaxing, ordering your favorite food and watching Netflix, etc.

3. Acts of service

When someone's primary love language is acts of service, they feel appreciated and loved when someone does nice things for them. Even the smallest acts of service can be very appreciating. For example, helping a parent with chores, helping a sibling with a project, making a cup of tea for someone who has had a long day at work, cooking for them, etc.

For yourself, acts of service can involve being responsible to your duties, like, being organized and productive.

4. Physical touch

Some people feel more loved through body languages or through physical affection, which involves holding hands, hugging, giving someone a massage, making eye contacts, sitting close to them, etc.

Physical affection for the self may include movement, stretching and exercising, exfoliating or moisturizing the skin or getting massage.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Not just the other's, but understanding your own love language is important, as well. It takes effort, sincerity and determination to make any relationship a healthy relationship. Let people know that they are loved and cared for, and always show gratitude when the others tell you that you are loved. 

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